Why Some Women Travel to South Korea to Find Boyfriends

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(THE CONVERSATION) All my life, I have obsessively watched South Korean television series, or K-dramas.

The term refers to the disparate genres of television series produced in South Korea, including mystery, crime, and romantic comedy. Regardless of genre, most K-dramas seek to elicit a visceral response from viewers – laughter, tears, anger, outrage. Series usually feature charming and neat actors who are in touch with their emotions.

When I was in elementary school in the United States, I regularly went with my parents to a Korean grocery store an hour from my house to borrow VHS tapes of K-dramas. Eventually, streaming services ended the need for VHS rentals, and I was able to watch my favorite K-dramas like “The Innocent Man” on platforms like Rakuten Viki and Dramafever.

I turned my passion for South Korean television into a career by earning a doctorate in gender studies at the University of California, Los Angeles, where I researched the racial, gender, and sexual politics surrounding the worldwide popularity of K-dramas.

For my thesis, I interviewed women from different parts of the world who were inspired by K-dramas to travel to South Korea to experience the culture firsthand. To meet them, I stayed at guesthouses around Seoul, near K-drama filming locations and popular tourist destinations.

More broadly, I wanted to know what attracted them to South Korea. But I soon realized that a significant number of tourists were less interested in sights and sounds – and more interested in people.

The rise of K-drama

Some of the first K-dramas to attract audiences outside of South Korea were “Jewel in the Palace,” “Guardian: Lonely and Great God,” and “My Love from the Star,” which aired in the early 21st century. People around the world watched them on legal streaming websites that offered subtitles, as well as illegal fan-run streaming sites where volunteers wrote subtitles.

In recent years, K-dramas have become mainstream. Today, streaming platforms such as Netflix and Disney+ not only offer a slew of K-dramas to their subscribers, but they have also produced their own K-dramas, such as “Squid Game” and “The King’s Affection.”

The worldwide popularity of K-dramas has occurred alongside the popularity of other South Korean cultural products, including K-pop, cosmetics, and food. This phenomenon is known as “Hallyu” or the “Korean wave”.

“Hallyu Tourism” – with a twist

Galvanized by their interest in South Korean popular culture, more and more tourists are visiting the country.

South Korean locals call these visitors “Hallyu tourists”. Many of them dine at restaurants and street vendors so they can try the food they see in K-dramas, visit K-dramas filming locations, or catch a live K-pop show. .

However, a significant subset – the group I’m most interested in – travel to South Korea for love. Drawn to the characters they see on their televisions, they begin to wonder if real-life South Korean men resemble male K-drama characters, both in appearance and behavior.

They come from all over the world – North America, Western Europe, Russia – but tend to have a similar profile: heterosexual women in their early to mid-twenties.

In 2017 and 2018, I stayed at the guesthouses and hostels that Hallyu tourists frequented when visiting South Korea. Tourists who were interested in Korean men quickly stood out. Unlike other tourists who woke up early so they could explore the city, these tourists slept or watched K-dramas during the day, then got dressed and put on makeup before hitting clubs and bars at night. They had one main goal: to meet a Korean.

For some of these tourists, the opportunity to date these men was a way to fulfill a fantasy. A German tourist told me that when she meets a Korean, she feels like “living in [her] own Korean TV drama.

Our discussions often took place over a meal. Occasionally I would interview them as we went to and from clubs and bars – or even in clubs and bars as the women tried to meet guys. Some of these women were fluent in Korean, while others were able to communicate by mixing Korean and English. Many of them claimed to have learned Korean by consuming hours of Korean popular culture.

In search of a “soft” masculinity

“Romantic”, “sweet”, “beautiful”, “knights in shining armor” are just some of the terms tourists used to describe their idealized Korean. It was a stark contrast to the men in their home country, whom they tended to portray as emotionally stunted and hypermasculine.

“I feel so safe with Korean men,” a Swedish woman told me. “The men at home are so [sexually] aggressive. They grope me and try to have sex all the time. I do not like it.”

A certain type of man tends to appear in romantic K-dramas. They are generally portrayed as neat, romantic and gentle – a type of masculinity sometimes referred to as “soft” masculinity. As Korean studies scholar Joanna Elfving-Hwang explains:

“…men in popular dramas and romantic comedies are portrayed as attentive, sensitive, and ready to vent their feelings if need be. They are neat and fashionably dressed, accessorized with the latest men’s bag and excessively concerned about their appearance.

Some tourists have indeed found their ideal partner, marrying and settling in South Korea. Their photos and stories circulated among other tourists, giving them hope that they too could find and marry a Korean.

However, these successes were the exception and not the norm.

Most of the tourists I interviewed and stayed in contact with left the country somewhat disappointed. Some managed to have a short fling with a man; but in most cases these relationships – extremely difficult to maintain at a distance – fell apart.

A Spanish woman I interviewed broke up with her Korean boyfriend shortly after returning to Spain. “You have only given me pain,” she wrote in an Instagram post.

Other tourists left South Korea completely discouraged: the men they met looked nothing like the K-drama actors they had seen on TV.

Interestingly, whether they left the country partially satisfied or demoralized, many of the women I interviewed were unwavering in their desire to one day fall in love with a Korean. They believed they were just unlucky this time around – that there was still the possibility of meeting the perfect man on a future visit to South Korea.

The power of media to move

In 2020, after South Korean director Bong Joon Ho won a Golden Globe for his film “Parasite,” he said, “Once you overcome the 1-inch high caption barrier, you will experience so many other amazing movies. ”

To me, these K-drama fans turned tourists — and their desire for Korean men — signifies the power of media from other cultures to move viewers not only emotionally, but also physically. Researchers have documented how some Japanese take trips to the UK after watching British period dramas; other scholars have studied how anime boosted American tourism to Japan.

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With entertainment from other cultures becoming more accessible via streaming platforms, I expect this type of media-inspired tourism to become even more common. Movies and TV series set in other countries can pique a viewer’s curiosity about distant cultures, new sounds and exotic foods.

But as my research shows, they can also fuel fantasies about love and romance that don’t always have a happy ending.

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article here: https://theconversation.com/why-some-women-are-traveling-to-south-korea-to-find-boyfriends-175905.

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